Live Life With No Regrets!

One key to performing well, is to imagine what you want not what you don't want.

If I say to you "Don't think of a pink elephant!" What are you going to do? You'll be doing something that you don't want to do. Instead of that, I should say, "Think of a purple alligator". By thinking of what you want to do you will automatically banish the thoughts of what you don't want to do.

In the same way, some people say "I want to forget about my ex-husband." Or "I want to forget about my problems." That will almost never work. Because you can't have a vacuum in your mind. Instead of trying to forget, think of something that replaces it.

In short, don't think about your problems, think about the solution and the end result. Think about your role in life, how do you see yourself? See yourself as the winner, not the loser. See clearly yourself beating your opponent, overcoming your obstacles, becoming more courageous, more daring, more kinder, more effective.

Managers too should take heed of this advice. Instead of "Don't screw up", "Don't make mistakes", etc. Accentuate what you want, not what you don't want. "I want X things done by XXXX"

(The unfortunate problem with life is and perhaps explored in another post of mine is that most people don't know what they want truly in their hearts of hearts.)

Begin with the end in mind, not the problem at hand.